A little about me and why I am Doula which I hope goes some way to give you some indication about what kind of person I am.
I now live in deepest darkest Somerset, but was born and raised in South East London. My childhood was fairly chaotic and eventually I was raised by my Grandmother Kitty, a hardworking resiliant real Eastender of irish decent. I am incredibly proud of my upringing with my Grandmother, my ancestry and working class roots. I learned so much from my grandmother in terms of how to be a mother, and a non-judgemental confidant and loyal friend.
I studied drama at college, and then Fashion imagery and Cultural studies at university, so while I sound much like Nancy from Oliver I can recite Shakespeare, discuss fashion, art and politics, though the latter I do try to avoid. I also speak a little Spanglish but my mother tongue is the colourful, expressive and poetic language of Cockney.
I have previously worked as a make up artists and photographer and most recently as a jewelry and accessory upcycler but now I am a doula. I am still making my baby earrings shhhhh they are in my online shop.
My love language is food and connection to others both of which feature a lot in all my relationships particularly in my role as a doula. I follow the work of Dr Gabor Mate and am in the middle of one of his courses on compassionate enquiry. I love what he so much but this is my favorite quote "Safety is not the absence of fear but the presence of connection." I fully believe that Connection between humans is vital, especially in the worId as it is and while trying to navigate the systems within it.
I have been an advocate for many years and in many capacities and I am comfortable advocating for my clients even in complex and difficult situations.
I had my first child, my son, when I was 22 and this was my first experience with a Doula. I wish she had been at my birth because after I felt like I had been hit by a bus. I was so traumatised that I thought I'd never have more children even though being a mother is my favorite thing in the world. My Doula had however imparted true wisdom with me around breast feeding so that I peacefully allowed my son to instinctively initiate our successful breastfeeding journey.
Thirteen years later I fell pregnant again and was blessed with identical twin girls. What a roller-coaster twin pregnancy is! With the support of a Doula and independent midwife we got through it in one piece. Albeit they were born at 32 weeks and with three weeks spent in NICU due to them having sudden onset TTTS and we know now TAPS survivors.
My last born was another girl, at home with only my partner and a friend present.
These four births have been invaluable in understanding the very real need for medical intervention against no evidence to support the need for medical intervention.
I now live with my partner of 8 years, my four amazing children and two tiny doggies. Sorry teen won't take photo's with us or be seen with us as he is, well a teen. but here most of us are perhaps I can share a post in a year or twos time when he doesn't think me quite so embarrassing. In fairness I am quite embarrasing.
The way I work is taylored to you but I use creative tools as much as possible to help create lasting positive memories of your pregnancy, birth and the neontal period, while also helping you to get a real understanding of the physiology of birth. Where interventions are wanting or needed I do this as a way of preparing and bringing you through that experience whichever it is as all birth can be beautiful.
In my spare time (of which I have barely any) I volunteer for AIMS, a charity for the improvement of maternity services and work alongside other organisations such as The TAPS Support Foundation as my passion is in educating as many people as should know about risks posed to monochorionic twins and multiples.
I have unfortunately experienced 5 pregnancies that did not result in live births: three through the tragedy of miscarriage and two terminations and I am comfortable supporting fully through either.
I strongly support autonomy in pregnancy and choice.
Your pregnancy is your Journey and I am there to help you navigate it in a way that feels safe and right for you.
Book a call with me if you feel this sounds like the back-story of the Doula you feel you deserve. Or just to hear me recite some Shakespeare…